Actions Speak Louder

What defines who a person truly is? Everyone says actions speak louder than words, but what actions are the ones that truly define who a person is for real on the inside? We all make mistakes, everyone has laps in judgement. No one is perfect. 

A person can't be judged solely upon one grand action, good or bad. A persons merit, and true character should be determined based upon their every day actions, and how they handle those moments when tough times are in front of them. Especially when they have done something to hurt someone else. 

Someone of good character takes accountability for their mistakes, and faces the people they hurt. Cowering away, hiding, and avoiding consequences shows vial selfishness, complete lack of empathy, and blunt disregard for the well-being of another person. Actions like this speak the loudest. If you make a mistake own up to it. If you do something to hurt someone, apologize. Offer a solution to try and correct the mistake. Admitting you're wrong sucks, and yes getting dagger eyes, and yelled at is ungodly uncomfortable, but that's life. A person of good merit owns up to their actions, and faces the consequences. Don't run away, dodge calls, and tell lies until you're blue in the face to justify your deceitfulness. 

Just because you run away from a "problem" or a "bad choice" doesn't mean that the affect it took on every one surrounding your went away. Sometimes you're not the only one who has to live with the results of your poor decisions. 

My challenge for you today:

If you've ever made a mistake, and hurt someone unintentionally in the process, reach out to them, apologize. Truly ask for forgiveness. Maybe not for what you did, if you still believe it was the right thing to do. Apologize for hurting them, apologize for putting them in a bad position or for what ever it was that affected them negatively. Don't let your selfishness, and poor judgement blacken your soul. Don't let your fear of admitting your mistakes dirty your heart. Step into the light take responsibility for yourself. Mend the wounds.

Until Next time.

Peace Out Cub Scout        

secrets

Every one has secrets. Weather it be something big, or something small we all have them. Sometimes we have secrets that we keep for other people. Other times we have secrets that we keep for ourselves. And on occasion we have the secret that we keep to protect someone else from being hurt, because some times ignorance is bliss and if it doesn't have a direct positive effect on the future why open old wounds.

The worst kind of secrets are the ones you have from that "one night" where you weren't yourself, and weren't thinking clearly. The secrets of the mistakes made from a few misjudgments, irrational things we decide to do in the heat of the moment. Following decisions made on impulse instead of logic. Doing this makes us human, but we are so ashamed of it that we all hide it away. Trusting maybe a few to keep your secret. Secrets can be bad, but other times they can be good. It all depends on the circumstance.

So the next time you think of sharing a secret weather it be yours or anyone else's, think about what telling the people the secret will do. Would it only end up hurting someones feelings, or break apart a perfect couplet who would other wise be completely happy, Sometimes you just need to weigh your options before you make a decision that will make you unhappy.